This has been a really draining week for me. Basically the source of the stress has come from the passing of my Grandma; well, actually, the prolonged passing of my Grandma.
I visited her early last week and she looked bad...really bad. I figured she would be luck to make it another 12 hours. My Mom and the hospice nurse thought less. Two more days went on and Grandma was still with us, in body at least.
She finally passed away on Wednesday night, somewhere around 9:45. Angie got to the house at about 10:00. She was bummed not to have been able to see Grandma, but I told her it was good she hadn't. The whole final day before she died, she had only enough brain stem activity that told her heart to beat about 5 times every minute. The result was her blood pooled in her extremities(legs/arms), turning them as black as the keyboard I am typing on. Rigamortius had started to set in.
I didn't go back out after Monday. I wanted to remember Grandma the way she had been. A lovely woman with a heart of gold.
Mom and I did the graveside service. Well, mom mostly. She did a fantastic job. It was short, sweet, and personal. I told her that I thought she might have what it takes to be a Priestess/Prophetess. Angie then mentioned that there was an opening at PRBC and we could put in a good word for her. That caused a few laughs and a big groan from my mom.
Grandma's death did put somethings in perspective for me though. I had been wondering what to say for my part of the service...how to honor a woman like Grandma. When I finally decided what I was going to say, my dad, at the service stole my thunder. It was good though and I was very happy to hear those words come from my dad's mouth. I will try to quote him in intent, not words.
"Grandma B was a special woman and there was no doubt that she loved each and every one of us. She had a way of touching your life when you were with her; the fact that you are gathered here is a testiment to that. Now, with her gone, we have to take up the responsibility of touching the lives of those around us. The best way to honor Grandma is to love what she loved and that is her family."
I don't think there had been a time in my life that I was more proud to be the son of Harold Mertes then I was then. Although I think what he said was a direct message to some of my more quarrelsome family members, Dad hit on a great life priciple.
You honor someone by modeling your life after them.
I can honor Grandma by loving her family.
I can honor Christ by loving what He loved. "For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. John 3:16"
God showed his love by responding in an action...giving us the Christ. He did just give us more words telling us of his love. Love was made manifest in Jesus.
I came to a conclusion yesterday that I wasn't will to face until now. My words mean nothing if they are not lived out in my life and actions. Nothing I put in this blog mean anything if it is not evident in who I am.
Truth not lived is meaningless.
Thanks again Grandma for helping me remember that. I hope to honor you by not ever forgetting that again.